Change The Way You See Friendship
I have never had a problem with making friends. It’s part of my bubbly nature to befriend any person I meet. I guess one could say my problem is finding great friends I can keep.
When I was a kid, I wanted so much to be part of the “cool” crowd. All throughout my primary and high school years, I would latch onto people who are deemed popular in school. It wasn’t until much, much later that I realized I was only being tolerated and not accepted as part of the circle/group.
During my first few years in college, I had a steady group of friends I go out with and we always had a great time. We would have a lot of laughs, talk about anything, hang out in each other’s houses, and play whatever computer game or MMORPG is out. I seriously thought our friendships would last. We went on our separate ways eventually, with some of them shifting courses or changing schools. The only thing that was binding us together was our mutual interest in computer games, one I outgrew after a couple of years.
Looking back, I had trouble finding real friends, the kind that stuck around and were genuine. Some are only there for the good times, some only want you around when they need something, and some were downright unappreciative. As time passed, I learned to let go.
Early this year I took a chance at seeking God. Having Jesus as a friend is the perfect set-up. The more I learned the more it calmed my heart. He will never judge. I have nothing to prove. He accepts me as I am, and the best part is, He will never leave me nor forsake me. You might think I’m crazy, but trust me, I’m mentally stable. While this concept may be ridiculous to some, it makes perfect sense to a born again Christian like me.
In a relationship, it is important to have God in the center. This is usually taught between a man-woman romantic relationship, but I believe it’s applicable to all kinds of relationship. We are taught to love one another, and it becomes easier when we have Christ in our center. We become a support group and accountability partners, and we learn to accept each other’s faults and flaws and all. We openly rebuke one another, encourage, guide, and pray for each other. That’s what I believe friendship should be like.
I have seen friendship in a different light ever since I signed up for a small group last February. I was assigned to a new group; It was so new that I was the only disciple for the first couple of months. My discipler and I connected right away despite being different in so many ways. She disciples me, encourages me and prays for me. Together with the other girls in our group and some friends, we share ideas, lots of laughs, plans for the future, and even our struggles. We talk about all kinds of topics and always have a stimulating conversation. Our friendship is centered on God and our relationship is growing stronger each day.
We make it a point to try something different once in a while; To experience life together as much as we can. Last May, we went to a secluded beach in Batangas along with some friends to celebrate our birthdays. We had our usual Bible study and enjoyed spending the rest of our time enjoying nature.
Taking pictures was part of the experience. Of course, we wanted to capture the moment and look back at how much fun we had spending time with each other. While my smartphone was proven useful, it would have been legendary if I had a Huawei P9. With a dual lens camera co-engineered with Leica, we would have had high-quality photos and taken advantage of the settings for more exciting pictures.
While this is only the beginning of a beautiful friendship, I am confident that it will last. Our bond will grow strong as we go through life with our focus on Christ.